Thursday, November 12, 2020

My Christmas Present

MY CHRISTMAS PRESENT to my friends and loved ones this year are not only material but also SPIRITUAL GIFT - a SPIRITUAL EXPERIENCE this time around. 


If you are reading this, you are probably a loved one or a friend who received a link to this post as a recipient of this spiritual Christmas gift. I am giving this Christmas present because I am thankful for people like you who have contributed goodness and kindness to me and my family. 

This SPIRITUAL GIFT and EXPERIENCE is through PRAYERS by THREE (3) POWERFUL INTERCESSORS: I made mass offerings for thanksgiving and prayer petitions for my loved ones, the deceased, the sick and the dying to a well-known church in Paoay, Ilocos Norte - the province where I grew up. 

St. Augustine Church of Paoay Ilocos Norte dedicated a Eucharistic Celebration with your names individually mentioned at the start of the mass last December 2, 2020.  Here is the link to this particular mass: https://www.facebook.com/san.agustin.165470/videos/202941991409187/


The parish priest, Fr. Joel Bruno Barut and the nuns will pray for you and your deceased loved ones until January 2021.

Apart from this, I also requested two (2) Congregations of Catholic nuns to pray for the same petitions. The list of names of my loved ones and friends were given to these intercessors (The list can be found at the bottom portion of this post - your name is there! 🙏💖💖💖).  These POWERFUL INTERCESSORS will be praying for you and your deceased loved ones starting as early as November 2020.

Who are these THREE PRAYER WARRIORS?

The first among them, as previously mentioned, is the St. Augustine Church, also known as Paoay Church of Ilocos Norte through its parish priest and our family friend, Fr. Joel Bruno Barut who will say masses for you. 

Photo Courtesy of Fr. Joel Bruno Barut

St. Augustine Church or Paoay Church of Ilocos Norte is one of the oldest churches in the world being more than 400 years old.  It is considered a UNESCO WORLD HERITAGE SITE as it is one of the best baroque churches in the Philippines. Its distinct architectural design is its huge buttresses.

Photo Courtesy of Fr. Joel Bruno Barut

Photo Courtesy of Fr. Joel Bruno Barut

Photo Courtesy of Fr. Joel Bruno Barut


Its walls are made of coral stones and the mortar used are sand and lime.  Through the efforts of Fr. Barut the church, after several earthquakes in the past, has been beautifully restored.

Photo Courtesy of Sr. Pinky Grace Panganiban, FAS


Photo Courtesy of Sr. Pinky Grace Panganiban, FAS
Photo Courtesy of Sr. Pinky Grace Panganiban, FAS


Photos Courtesy of Sr. Pinky Grace Panganiban, FAS

When Fr. Joel Bruno Barut learned of my prayer requests as my Christmas presents to all of you - such request he said is a very spiritual experience since what is very close to the heart of Jesus and to the heart of the church are the sick, dying, poor and the deceased. He said further, "As a matter of fact, these intentions of yours are more intensified in our parish since the relic of St. Augustine is with us in this Church."

Photo of Fr. Joel Bruno Barut, parish priest of Paoay Church
Photo Courtesy of Fr. Barut

A bone relic of St. Augustine which belongs to Paoay Church
Photo Courtesy of Sr. Pinky Grace Panganiban, FAS


For your information, the Paoay Church is raising funds for a laptop. They also need help to improve their Facebook Livestream online masses which has poor audio and video resolution. If you wish to give monetary donations, you may deposit to their bank account below: 

St. Augustine Parish Paoay
BPI # 0591-0107-35
Fonacier, Rizal St.
Brgy. 14, Laoag City, Ilocos Norte
Philippines

The second prayer warrior is the congregation of Franciscan Apostolic Sisters (FAS) whose nuns have been working for Paoay Church for more than 20 years.  The names of your deceased loved ones and your names were given to them and they will be praying for you in their convent. They are led by Sr. Reynalyn Pardo, FAS, the local superior, and Sr. Pinky Grace Panganiban, FAS. If you wish to give monetary donations, you may deposit to their bank account below: 

Franciscan Apostolic Sisters Pastoral Fund
Acct #: 103-3-1-360250-6
Metrobank: Tuguegarao Branch
Philippines


Franciscan Apostolic Sisters at the Motherhouse in Sta. Ana, Cagayan Valley

(L-R) Sr. Pinky Grace Panganiban, FAS and the local superior Sr. Reynalyn Pardo, FAS who are the nuns assigned in Paoay, Ilocos Norte. Photo Courtesy of Sr. Pinky Grace Panganiban, FAS

Sisters Reynalyn and Pinky with Fr. Joel Bruno Barut, the parish priest of Paoay Church
Photo Courtesy of Sr. Pinky Grace Panganiban, FAS.

The third prayer warrior is the congregation of Dominican Daughters of the Immaculate Mother.  They had a convent in Sarrat, Ilocos Norte and my mother Consuelo was very supportive of these nuns which was then led by sister prioress Sr. Socorro Calzado, OP.  They eventually closed this convent in Sarrat as they are needed more in other areas. However your names and prayer  requests will be prayed specifically by their nuns located in St. Benedict's Academy, Guinobatan, Albay where Sr. Socorro Calzado is now assigned.  


The nuns of Dominican Daughters of the Immaculate Mother assigned in Guinobatan, Albay
Photo Courtesy of Sr. Socorro Calzado, OP


Sr. Socorro Calzado, OP
Photo Courtesy of Sr. Socorro

Sr. Socorro is our good family friend who accepted my request despite their scarce financial resources.  Their school had housed over 200 victims whose houses were destroyed due to the strong typhoons during this pandemic in Guinobatan, Albay. They continue their mission by helping the poor and by contributing  to society in the field of education.  If you wish to give monetary donations to their convent, you may money transfer through Palawan with the details below: 

Recipient's Name: Ma. Socorro C. Calzado
Mobile no. 0921-421-1198
Palawan Money Transfer
Guinobatan, Albay Branch
Philippines


THE LIST OF INTENTIONS & PRAYER REQUESTS


The list of your names and your sick and deceased loved ones were submitted to the above-mentioned POWERFUL PRAYER WARRIORS & INTERCESSORS. This list is found below: 

CORPUZ FAMILY:
For thanksgiving for all the countless blessings to our family; For good health, protection from the snares of the devil and from any form of sickness especially Covid19; for prosperity, wisdom, strength, for a long and happy life; and the forgiveness of sins for the ff.:
- Atty. Nestor and Atty. Consuelo "Baby" Corpuz (my parents) 
- Vince and Nina Marie Rodriguez (my siblings)
- Hermie "Bong" and Noelle Bernadette Perez (my siblings)
- Nicomedes Romulo "Nickrome" and Daphne Corpuz (my siblings), & Daphne's safe delivery of a healthy baby boy who will be named Nathan Elijah Corpuz.
- Stella, Emily, Luke, Camilla and Nico (my nieces and nephews)
- for myself, Naomi Therese F. Corpuz - for spiritual, emotional, physical and mental strength, and wisdom to fully prepare for and successfully pass the bar examinations and be a good lawyer; for the forgiveness of my sins; for the healing of all my ailments and have a good, happy, long and healthy life. 

KABARKADA:

For good health; for protection from any harm especially from Covid19; for prosperity, wisdom, strength, and healing of all ailments; for forgiveness of sins; and for a long and happy life for the following:
- Dra. Marjovi Boquiren-Victoria and family
- Ms. Merian Joyce Perez and family
- Mrs. Kristine Agapay-Pimentel and family
- Atty. Kristine Angeline Buted and family
- Ms. Joanne Emmanelle Marcos and family
- Mrs. Mary Ann Abad-Damaso and family
- Ms. Myra Cruz and family
- Mrs. Ann Mondala-Summerhill and family
- Dr. Christine Guevarra and family
- Mrs. Bheng Obina-Corales and family
- Ms. Nirva Dela Cruz and family
- Ms. Joy Domingo and family
- Ms. Phebe Bisnar and family
- Mrs. Trina Fernando-Resurreccion and family
- Ms. Sunshine de la Cruz and family
- Mr. Enrique Gomez and family
- Mr. Kristoffer Acyatan and family
- Mr. Carlo Escalada and Family
- Mrs. Katrina Tan-Gan and family
- Mr. Marlon Vallarta and family
- Ms. Cecilia De Jesus and family
- Mr. James Reyes and family
- Ms. Emz Moreno and family
- Mrs. Odilla Tutaan Andres and family
- Mrs. Genny Mabuti - Mamaclay and family
- Mr. Patrick Taguibao and family
- Ms. Anna Samarita and family
- Ms. Francheska Bea Lopez and family
- Mrs. Diana Bonilla and family
- Atty. Harold Jeff Respicio and family
- Mr. Marcus Gamo and family 

FAMILY FRIENDS: 

For good health; for protection from any harm especially from Covid19; for prosperity, wisdom, strength, and healing of all ailments; for forgiveness of sins; and for a long and happy life for the following:
- Mrs. Mary Ann O'Connor-Rodriguez and family
- Ms. Vickie O'Connor and family
- Mr. & Mrs. Hermie and Maria "Bheng" Perez and family
- Mr. Wellington & Mrs. Maureen Soong and family
- Dr. Jercyl Leilani Demeterio and family
- Dr. Elisa Bermio and family
- Dr. Mia Fojas and family
- Dr. June Pagaduan-Lopez and family
- Mr. Patrick and Mrs. Eloise "Malot" Te and family
- Mrs. January Eve Siazon-Castro and family
- Mrs. Ruchi Handa-Sareen and family
- Mrs. Sybil Castro-Ballen and family
- Mr. Cesario & Mrs. Estrella Pacis and family
- Mrs. Jovenita Aragon and family
- Ms. Milagros Juliet Pascual and family
- Mrs. Muriel Valdez and family
- Rev. Fr. Joel Bruno Barut
- Sr. Reynalyn Pardo, FAS
- Sr. Pinky Grace Panganiban, FAS
- Sr. Socorro Calzado, OP
- Mrs. Ela Balza and family
- Ms. Patty & Mrs. Rebecca Porto and family
- Sr. Florencia Fabillar, SSpS
- Mrs. Odette Barut-Chua and family
- Mr. Raphael Badillo and family
- Ms. Adelaida "Teng" De Perio and family
- Sr. Nerissa "Bubbles' Bandojo, rc
- Sr. Cecile Tuble, rc
- Sr. Susay Valdez, rc
- Sr. Yna Onate, rc
- Sr. Hazel Suarez, rc
- Mr. Leugenn Alipio
- Mrs. Rianne Picar-Danao and family
- Ms. Dawna Orilla and family
- Ms. Cecilia Tuazon and family
- Mr. RD Bensan and family
- Mr. Christian Castro and family
- Mrs. Mitch Ong and family
- Mrs. Lourdes Fugoso-Alcain and family
- Mrs. Aimee Mina - Dela Cruz
- Atty. Mervin Natalicio and family
- Ms. Karen Mae "KM" Tan and family
- Dr. April Punzalan and family
- Mr Timmy & Mrs. Cindy Tuason and family
- Dr. Araceli Jacoba and family
- Mrs. Girlie Ong-Genato
- Atty. Melissa Dimson-Bautista and family 
- Mr. Robin Toby Peralta and family
- Mrs. Sasheen Fernandez-Manansala and family

BASIC ECCLESIAL COMMUNITY (B.E.C.) BIBLE STUDY FRIENDS: 

For good health; for protection from any harm especially from Covid19; for prosperity, wisdom, strength, and healing of all ailments; for forgiveness of sins; and for a long and happy life for the following:
- Mrs. Milagros Mendoza and family
- Mrs. Nerissa Garduno and family
- Mrs. Maria Theresa Marquez Padilla and family
- Mrs. Veroyda Guiang-Aguinaldo and family
- Mrs. Teresa Fernandez and family
- Mrs. Ely Quiambao and family
- Mr. Jowell & Mrs. Marivic Torres and family
- Mrs. Terry Domalaon and family
- Mrs. Ineng Macatangay and family
- Mrs. Renee Mohal and family
- Sr. Vilma Puzon, SSpS
- Sr. Marie Grace Puzon, SSpS
- Mr. Enric & Mrs. Ces Estrada and family
- Drs. Nito & Remedios "Remy" Coronel and family
- Mr. Dante & Mrs. Linda Reyes and family
- Ms. Jane Gonzales
- Atty. Anthony and Mrs. Ditz Viray and family
- Judge Thelma Ponferrada and family
- Mrs. Elizabeth Infante and family
- Mrs. Irene Magbanua and family
- Mrs. Marilou De Vera-Mendoza

LITURGICAL BIBLE STUDY (L.B.S.) FRIENDS: 

For good health; for protection from any harm especially from Covid19; for prosperity, wisdom, strength, and healing of all ailments; for forgiveness of sins; and for a long and happy life for the following:
- Mr. Arnel & Mrs. Criselda "Relly" Cruz and family
- Attys. Emmanuel & Marilou Tamase and family
- Mrs. Marian Sabas - Libot and family
- Dr. Clare Coronel and family
- Mrs. Cherry Moralda and family
- Mr. Norvic & Rachelle Domingo and family
- Mr. Kenneth & Marie Tanate and family
- Dr. Lorna Frez and family
- Drs. Ivan & Susan Concepcion
- Mrs. Ofelia Dy and family
- Atty. Carmelita "Mimee" Sison and family
- Ms. Maricar Llansang and family
- Mr. Paul Matthew Guevarra and family

AMARE SPIRITUS CHOIR FRIENDS: 

- Atty. Ivana Callangan and family
- Ms. Katherine Olfato and family
- Ms. Ivy Domingo and family
- Mr. Harry Gapasin Merjudio and family
- Mr. John Marc Estoque and family
- Ms Khris Gonzales and family
- Mrs. Marj Torres-Yang and family
- Mrs. Vanessa Torres-Ticzon and family
- Ms. Angela Gomez and family
- Mr. Anthony Asis and family
- Dr. Clare Coronel and family
- Mr. Norvic Domingo and family
- Mrs. Cherry Moraldo and family

N. CORPUZ ENTERPRISES, INC. EMPLOYEES:

- Roel Adriano and family
- Judy Ann Calilit and family
- Rhizza Gaile Calilit and family
- Marylene Dela Cruz and family
- Marites Espiritu and family
- Imelda Tolentino-Idica and family
- Adoracion Martin and family
- Yolie Rose Manuel and family
- Rodalyn Miguel and family
- Cynthia Reynon and family
- Marie Luz Saludez and family
- Aurelia C. Villasan and family
- Sharalene C. Villasan and family 

RELATIVES: 

For good health; for protection from any harm especially from Covid19; for prosperity, wisdom, strength, and healing of all ailments; for forgiveness of sins; and for a long and happy life for the following:

CORPUZ FAMILY
- Drs. Neon & Mrs. Natividad Corpuz, their children (Rissa and Nashya and their spouses & Norman) and grandchildren
- Mrs. Rosabella Corpuz, her children (Nathaniel, Ninotchka, Nonilone and Nikomedezhi and their spouses) and grandchildren
- Ms. Enya Velasquez
- Ms. April Jimenez and family
- Mr. Justin Taylan and family
- Mrs. Twiggy Velasquez - Dizon and family
- Mr. Vic Velasquez and family

FERNANDO FAMILY
- Mr. Jun & Mrs. Angelica Banaria, their children (Divine and Angelo & their spouses) and grandchildren
- Mrs. Marlene Fernando, her children (Ate Lian, Alan, Aris, Pinky, Joan & their spouses), grandchildren & great grandchildren
- Mrs. Anna Lee "Inday" Fernando, her children (Che-Che, Roanne, Angelei, Baby Boy, Baby Girl & their spouses) and  grandchildren
- Mr. Jaime & Mrs. Suzette, their children (Sharon, Jay-R, Love & their spouses), grandchildren & great grandchildren
- Mr. Gerardo & Mrs. Cristina Fernando, their children (Maan and her spouse, JC) and grandchildren
- Mrs. Irene Llana - Fernando and her children (Clarisse and Christiane)
- Atty. Napo and Mrs. Bing Fernando, their children (Ian, Angelo, Popong, Nina and their spouses), and grandchildren
- Mrs. Zenny Fernando and children (Karen and Paolo and their spouses)
- Mr. Jun & Mrs. Marly and children (Blessie, Kristy, and Angelie) and grandchildren

CHONGCO
- Mrs. Tessie Chongco-Buan and family
- Mrs. Elisa Chongco -Alejo and family
- Mr Willie (+) & Mrs. Vivian Chongco and family
- Mrs. Toyang (+) Chongco-Aquino and family
- Junior Chongco and family
- Mr. Nanding Chongco and family
- Mr. Nato & Beth Chongco and family

DUQUE
- Ms. Anching Duque and family
- Ms. Trining Duque and family
- Mrs. Carolina Galvez-Dunton
- Mrs. Ida Duque-Vardon and family
- Mrs. Teresita Duque and family
- Mrs. Connie Duque- Madrid and family
- Mr. Fred Duque and family
- Mr. Romy Duque and family

 MY GODCHILDREN: 

- Arizel Fernando - Merca 
- Paulene "Jan-Jan" Fernando - Cacnio
- Apple & Josephine Torres
- Janus Pacis
- Magnus Gamo
- Kian Pimentel
- Dr. Jesusa Mae Aragon
- Rashaun Aronuel Berina
- Neo Fernando - Oreta
- Emily Rodriguez
- Nico Emil Perez
- Tynee Corpuz - Ballan
- Ethan Kyle Odilla-Andres
- Brienne Michaiah Magno-Mesina
- Victoria Mabuti - Mamaclay
- Francis Pio Velasquez 
- Janssen N. Reynon
- Rizelle Ara Villasan
- Greyzhel Lykken Mae Dela Cruz
- Dench Hernando
- Nolan Corpuz - Andres
- Frederick Matthew Yasay

OUR DEARLY DEPARTED: 

For the eternal repose of the souls of our dearly departed who are the ff.:

CORPUZ FAMILY
- Nicomedes Corpuz
- Hermenigilda Corpuz
- Noel Corpuz
- Nelia dela Cruz-Palencia
- Damaso Palencia
- Augusto "Tito" Velasquez
- Ruben Ruiz
- Oscar Jimenez
- Danny Velasquez
- Fe Lagmay

FERNANDO FAMILY
- Romulo Fernando, Sr.
- Virginia Fernando
- Maria Theresa Frances "Fritzie" Torres
- Romulo Fernando, Jr.
- Romulo Fernando III
- Aaron Fernando, Sr.
- Aaron "Yoyoy" Fernando, Jr.
- Isidro Fernando
- Manuel Eduardo Fernando
- Priscilla Chongco
- Oscar Fernando
- Isabelo Fernando
- Andy Fernando
- Toto Fernando
- Eugenio Salazar
- Esperanza Salazar
- Willie Chongco
- Toyang Chongco-Aquino
- Andy Fernando
- Nonong Fernando

DUQUE FAMILY
- Carmelita Duque-Galvez
- Ima Duque
- Ciriaco Duque
- Benny Duque
- Vennie Duque
- Cely Duque
- Diko Arsenio Duque
- Eddie Duque

DECEASED LOVED ONES of N. Corpuz Enterprises employees:
- Renz Marion Villasan
- Rogelio De Guzman
- Minette Fiesta
- Manuel Dumlao, Jr.
- Manuel Dumalo, Sr.
- Romualdo Martin
- Gregoria M. Tolentino
- Marilou & Mariano Tolentino
- Dominador Corpuz
- Johnny Corpuz
- Saturnino Corpuz
- Pastor Tagatac
- Sebastian Tagatac
- Pedro Adriano

FRIENDS
- Mrs. Nenette "Marie" L. Fernandez
- Robert O'Connor-Morando
- Reynaldo Yago
- Ana Liza Yago
- Renato "Rene" Valdez
- John Cloutman
- Jocelyn Del Rosario - de la Cruz
- Rodolfo Frez
- Lester Elido
- Serena Elize Cruz-Endaya
- Teofilo Mondala
- Gregoria Mayubay Tolentino
- Princesita Bisnar
- Amelia Cabal
- Estelita Caluya
- Evelyn Diocson
- Gimrib Marcelo
- Sylvia Miguel
- Sylvia Santos Pineda
- Sally Gatchalian
- Remedios Bernardino
- Juliet Te
- Jess Te
- Timoteo Alviz, Sr.
- Mercedes Alviz
- Emil Perez
- Eduardo Rodriguez
- Gina Lopez
- Sr. Lucy Agnes, SSpS
- Sr. Maria Rene, SSpS
- Evangeline Amodo
- Lydia Laran
- Feliza "Liling" Fernando
- Carmen Fernando
- Guia Valenciano
- Judy Francisco 
- Chit Labio
- Mrs. Sevilla
- Pascasio Banaria
- Porfina Buted-Raval
- Florence Lagasca - Bonoan
- Kharen Senen
- Nonong Ablan
- Forgotten Souls



PRAYER REQUESTS FROM MRS. CRISELDA IBANEZ-CRUZ


Prayers for our dearly departed:
IBANEZ FAMILY 
Cirilo
Consortia
Marcelino
Pining
Nilda Principe 
Santiago
Maria
Virginia
Roger
Rodolfo

OBNAMIA FAMILY 
Nestorio
Nestorio Jr. 
Lola Caludia
Corazon
Diosa
Julieta
Pilo
Minda Espina
Felix
Rafael
Natalia
Loida
Roman
Maxima
Marvel
Julita
Daniel
Baby ni Daniel (if nanay remembers) 
Florante
Armando
Henry
Milencio 
Felicula
Milencio Jr. 
Guillermo 
KA Maxima
Illuminada & Carling
Didier Watine
Paul-Henry, Elizabeth and Mathilda

CRUZ FAMILY 
Enrique, Jr
Zenaida
Joseph
Serena Elize
Enrique, Sr
Marcelina
Manuel 
Rosario
Apong Ago
Apong Sianang
Apong Echo
Apong Tikang
Salvador
Natalia
Fernando
Nicolas
Bapang Berting 
Nanang Rosie
Bapang Rey 
Bapang Dominador
Bapang Miling 
Nanang Bale|
Bapang Felix
Nanang Bebeng
Kuya Tony
Pilipinas
Veron

BREVA FAMILY
Francisco B. Breva
Julia A. Adoptante
Ricardo A. Breva
Rufina Arellano
Maria Arellano
Salvadora A. Tolentino
Maura A. adoptante
Maria Belen A. adoptante
Amparo A. consul
Celestina A. Aytona
Roberto A. Aytona
Edgardo  A. Consul
Pedro Aytona 
Rachelle Castillo
Julia Rose Didcott
Arcadio Cudiamat
Vicente Consul
Arsenio Castillo
Digna Gamez 
Mamerto Gamez
Romeo Adoptante
Rogelio Adoptante

FRIENDS 
Anna Liza
Reynaldo
Jose Benjamin
Regulo 
Pazo
Anthony 
John
Marcos at Adeling
Placido at Lourdes
Evelyn
Rodolfo
Jessy
Mar
Bernard
Dolores
Mercedes 
Stella Marie
Froilan
Frayno
Martin
Chubby
Luis
Kuya Jun
Kuya Gill
Rene
Bebet
Chito
Rolly
Ross
Jan
John
Eve
Alejo
Teresita
Pito
Aurea De Vera
Mario
Alberto
Forgotten souls

Wednesday, November 11, 2020

A Message from a Graduate Years Ago

 

I.
Unlike Reycel Hyacenth Bendana (Ateneo Class 2019 Valedictorian) and Helbert Paat (UPLB 2019 Summa Cum Laude) who gave messages in their graduation speeches about poverty and their stories about how they struggled coming from poor families - please allow me to share a bit of my story that is very different from theirs.
  1. I come from a prominent family. I wouldn’t describe my family as filthy rich, for we are no Lucio Tan, Henry Sy or Roberto Gokongwei - but rather and more appropriately, “financially stable” having inherited from my grandfather the oldest and largest bookstore (presently with 4 branches) in our homeprovince. This became our bread and butter and has allowed us to enjoy a little bit more in life compared to the likes of Reycel and Helbert.
  2. I graduated Class Valedictorian in highschool and Cum Laude in B.A. Psychology in UP Diliman. Afterwhich I finished law in the same university.
  3. I have a car that allows me to enjoy the comforts of not commuting in Metro Manila. We have “kasambahays" who cook and wash our dishes and do other household chores. We also have a driver so as not to experience being tired most of the time especially when you are stuck in traffic or have long travels.
II.
Yes, my life is the complete opposite of Reycel and Helbert’s. Almost everything was given to me on a silver platter. But as poverty oftentimes closes opportunities, my situation has closed doors as well.
  1. Coming from a prominent family and owning a huge bookstore allowed me to acquire as much as possible material and financial resources. But I never learned in childhood the hardwork our employees, my mother and my father have to go through - so that we can pay loans from the bank, pay our suppliers and pay salaries and our bills, among others. I only realized how hard this was when I was already co-managing our business in my 20’s. I also felt that we were unreachable to some people in the province who had lower means than ours since they judged us as a typical unreachable family because we had more in life.
  2. Graduating Class Valedictorian in highschool and cum laude in college were something I chose to achieve and wanted badly, but as I worked my ass off to achieve such goals academically, I had lacked the experience of having more meaningful relationships. I even missed the most important point - that is to have a meaningful relationship with our Jesus Christ, where I believe if I only had that early in childhood, all other good things would have followed.
  3. Having a car is a necessity but I never learned to commute and always depended on the driver every time it conked out. I was too sheltered and over-protected because we had employees who did almost everything for us. Which is why when our “kasambay" got ill for 2 weeks recently, I had a hard time adjusting to washing the dishes, cleaning my room and doing other household chores on my own. I had terrible back aches and easily got tired - because I am not used to it.
III.
Be that as it may, I have my highschool barkada who accept me for what I am, including my flaws. I have two bestfriends - Jovi and Joyce who are always there for me and will sacrifice their time and effort especially at times when no one else understands me anymore and I am most difficult to love. I have serious health issues but God allowed me to be supported by loving and caring friends and relatives and most especially my family.
When I got older and became mature, I tried to reconcile with some of the people I have hurt. Some of them did not accept me anymore but I always remember and pray for them.
I am also relieved that all the mistakes that I made in life happened before I became old. Imagine if I only realized these mistakes when I am already old - it will be too late and most probably I will be incorrigible by then, and life would really be unhappy and miserable for me.
Because of my life experiences, I also became more understanding, forgiving, non-judgemental and open-minded especially for people who are misunderstood and have personality problems. I became an “includer” and not a mean “excluder”.
I am blessed to have known God and how He works in my life in my early 30’s. Though I am a work in progress when it comes to my faith especially at times that I doubt and hate God, and blame Him when bad things happen to me - I talk to Him and ask for grace to understand Him and to guide me in everything that I do. Despite my frailties and limitations, I have such a blessed life for I am surrounded with love by friends (old and new) - a love that changed me for the better.
IV.
So what is my ultimate point? We cannot change the cards we are dealt with. However, no matter how ugly our combination of cards are as oppose to someone who is dealt with excellent ones, we can still win the proverbial poker. It is just a matter of how we play and the choices that we make in the game.
I am reading the book “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck” by Mark Manson and one of the highlights in his book is that many things that we are dealt with are not our fault - such as being born to a prominent family and graduating on top of class that shape our personalities (which sadly can be unlikeable). However it is our responsibility how to respond to it. It is our responsibility to make the choice - the right choice to change our lives and allowing the unpleasant experiences to jolt our minds so we may head to the right direction in our lives.